Obesity For Flying?

I came across an article about a man writing a complaint letter to Jetstar after having to sit by a severally obese man and having to suffer an awful odour whilst having to sit in discomfort during a 4 hour journey. To me this sounds like one of the worst experiences someone could deal with especially if they aren't particularly a fan of flying in this first plane this will only cause more anxiety and stress. I am not against people doing what they like however i feel that if someone is taking up two spaces that is what they should pay for.

Obesity is becoming a very common disease especially in countries such as the UK and America where people don't seem to be taking part in as many activities as they used to. So with the obesity population increasing at an incredibly fast rate this only makes situations like this more common, It;s not that people have a problem with obesity even though it's something that should be taken very seriously as a lot of people die from it or things that are caused by obesity such as heart disease, diabetes, heart attacks etc.

There is another argument that there should be more room on planes for bigger chairs so that it allows more comfort to people which i completely agree with because some of the chairs are really small. Small for the average person never mind someone that is seriously overweight. So i get why some bigger people are reluctant to pay for two seats nevertheless if you weigh twice as much as the average person your height and built then you should be expected to pay double the price.

This problem goes a lot further than whether you're too big for an air plane seat it goes back to your own health because without a healthy lifestyle and if you have a very unhealthy lifestyle then will you even have enough lifespan to enjoy long haul flights or general flights anywhere? Will your body be able to suffer it? So before complaining about this issue of paying for two seats or not think about your lifestyle and does it need an urgent change. I get it's not easy but to life a happy lifestyle you need your health and to be healthy.

It;s not just the problem of the people taking up the room it's the fact there isn't a lot of room in the first place. You can also expect some kind of discomfort when on a plane journey and you kind of expect that whether it's the screaming baby or the toddler that can't keep still but some things should not be deemed as acceptable.

What would you do if you were squeezed between two people for hours and they wouldn't do anything about it? A lot of people suffer from anxiety while flying or travel sickness so why should be have to deal with the possibility of only having half a seat because you had to sit by a severely overweight passenger?  But if the staff won't do anything about it then they are just as bad or in fact worse. 

Emma Watson's Speech On Feminism

So a few days ago Emma Watson did an exceptionally brilliant speech on feminism and how it's not just women's problem but men's as well. She sparks up points that are well thought out and provoke deep thinking for both genders. I didn't realise that gender inequality affected men just as much as women in a negative way. She tells us about her childhood and how sexism has affected her throughout her life. I can only predict positive things from this speech and hopefully more men coming forward and sticking up for women because if it wasn't for a woman bringing you into this world and carrying you for 9 months you wouldn't be in this world. 

She isn't just giving this speech for the hell of it she did it to introduce and launch the He for She campaign a campaign in which invites men and boys of the world to sign up and support the ending of inequality that women and girls face every single say. This campaign focuses on male supporters because there are simply not enough men fighting this subject and for it to be heard we need both genders on side. We need to educate men that they are just as important and involved within gender inequality and feminism is a general matter not just for females. People will often think of feminists as being just females simply because the word has fem in it however they couldn't be further from the truth. Let's just clarify the meaning of feminism. Feminism means the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of both sexes, the fact it says both sexes means that feminism isn't just about females it's about everyone. In my opinion men are slightly more involved in sexism because they have the power they should be using that power in a positive way not turning this into a gender war. Feminism is too frequently seen as anti men, man hating or angry women when that is utterly false because feminists are constantly fighting for equal rights and not just saying the negative affects on women but men also. In Emma Watson's speech she continuously refers to the negative impacts on men as well as women, She points out that the biggest killer for men in the UK between 20 and 49 is suicide, the fact men feel they have to be masculine and strong constantly can seriously damage their mental health because they feel they cannot ask for help as it might make them seem weak or vulnerable. Women have the opposite problem where they should be seen this way and simply cannot be seen as strong, independent individuals. 

Emma also points out that it's not about the word Feminism it's about your actions and beliefs that are really important because it's not about gender it's about respect. If you give respect to everyone gender doesn't need to come into this because you are treating everyone as equals. People don't realise how easy it is to be a feminist because they focus too much on the word and the bad reputation it gets from society. 

Emma's speech really struck a cord with me because i never realised until now that it is as much a man's issue as a woman's. We need men to stand up to women because there will always be a female role model who you look up to no matter what. Someone you believe is a strong, brave, compassionate individual who you love to the moon and back. So do this for them, do this for your future daughter who you want nothing but the best for, do this for your Mum who you believe this person is, do this for that friend you care deeply about. Men do this for them because you wouldn't be the person you are today without that female role model. Don't just do this for them but do it for you do it for the male gender and show people that you don't agree with such vile, disgusting behaviour being done by some males. Show compassion and support for females of all ages. 

Some people may say that she's just saying what we've known all along regardless not everyone knows some of the points she had made because i can guarantee that a lot of people didn't acknowledge how serious this problem is until now, especially men. We need someone with the celebrity status that Emma Watson has to speak out and use their power in a positive way which she has demonstrated by becoming a member of the UN, writing and presenting her speech and being a part of such an important, crucial campaign. She is showing what men need to do with their power and asking them to be part of such a positive project. 

I really do admire Emma Watson for being such a brave, respectful, courageous, decent human being, in this speech you can evidently see how hard and how much this means to her by the emotion she puts into every single word she says. She is such a brilliant example for young women and girls in this modern day. I believe we need more people like Emma to speak up and use their power in the right way especially men of today.  

I know i've done so many posts on this subject but it's something i care about deeply. This subject really doesn't get spoken about enough so when someone like Emma speaks up we need to speak about it and educate each other. 

Sexual Assault On Youtube

My main focus in this blog post will be Sam Pepper and his latest disgusting, unacceptable, discriminating, vile video. In this video he sexually assaults random girls on the busy street in public by getting physically close to them and then touching their bums. This is plain and simply illegal and he should be instantly charged for his cruel, insensitive behaviour however because it's meant to be a prank he thinks this is funny and even acceptable, normal behaviour for him to be doing. It's a very short video only showing a few girls he has victimized but we don't know how many girls he did this to in total. The reality is what if some of these girls were 16 or even 14, Sam Pepper could get into even bigger, serious trouble. It wouldn't be just sexual assault but it would be sexually harassing/assaulting girls under age who are extremely vulnerable. He could even be seen as a paedophile. Is extra money for a creator and more fame worth this sordid, filthy, disgusting reputation?

Not only does Sam Pepper evidently finds his behaviour funny and normal he keeps going with the harassment when the victims flinch to get away from Sam and their body language tells Sam they do not accept this behaviour. The first girl that's shown on camera even states that she does not like it but he keeps on laughing and ignores her completely. I have read comments that say "They were laughing, they obviously liked it." however you don't understand that's just a coping mechanism, that's what people do when they're nervous or even scared. They don't want to make a scene in just a public environment that they feel this is the only way they can react. I'm sure the girls he didn't put into his video reacted in a different way such as telling him to fuck off or raising their voices to him because he wouldn't put that into his video because it wouldn't be 'funny' then. Funny being socially acceptable and Sam still having the power.

The things Sam and the people defending this horrific video don't realise is that what if this was your Mum, sister, girlfriend or a female friend or family member you care deeply about that he was sexually assaulting? Would it be funny then? Would you still be defending this behaviour? Ans girls who are defending this video, what if your son that you raised up starting thinking this behaviour was acceptable and taking part in such disgusting pranks, would you be proud of them? Would you accept the fact you raised them up to think that behaviour like this is acceptable? What if they took it further? Such a video can have extremely dangerous, traumatic consequences and it pains me to say that a lot of people think this behaviour is acceptable, men and women.

It didn't just start at this one video, Sam has done a stream of videos linked into harassment or assault of this type such as pressuring girls to make out with him or hand cuffing girls to him, things that may seem harmless at first but have serious consequences that people don't realise. By making this behaviour seem normal it only leads to worse crimes becoming normalized such as rape and sexual violence in general. In these videos Sam treats women as sexual objects to make fun of giving them no respect to what they want whatsoever. This is seen as entertainment to him and a way of getting a lot of money and popularity.

Behaviour like this on the internet utterly scares me in a way nothing else can. At the moment 1 out of 6 young women are sexually assaulted which is already a sickening amount but the worse thing is video's like this only encourages it to happen more often. What if it ends up even higher at 1 out of 4? That is literally 4 or 5 girls out of your class. Sexual assault is traumatic and something no one can get over ever in their life time. To think this many young women have to go through such a harmful experience breaks my heart, it makes me sick to the core with anger.

A prank is meant to be something harmless but funny, something everyone can laugh and have a joke at, not committing a crime that can cause serious pain and distress to an individual. Actions like these are not pranks and are far from the definition of a prank.

All i can suggest is that we educate ourselves before condoning such alarming behaviour and realise women are not sexual objects to make a joke out of. We can be strong, sensitive and independent. It's not about gender it's about respecting each other as human beings. We all have feelings so lets act that way. Everyone should always aspire to be open minded, educated and kind to each other.

Dear Body

Before i start with this tag i would just like to thank Laura Lejeune for making this video where she says i message to her body in such a positive way. I shall leave a link below of her video so please subscribe to her channel as well because her videos are so educational and positive. 

Dear Body,

I've never really appreciated what you do for me, it's always been about how you look and highlighting the things i don't like about you. Without you being this way i wouldn't be a healthy, strong person which means a million times more than appearance. There's always been something i need to work on and constant improvement being made when really i needed to take a step back and be thankful that i have both legs, that i don't suffer with a bad back or chronic muscle pain. I know I'm only young but at any age we shall all be grateful for a healthy body. So I'm going to tell you how much i do appreciate you because that's the least you deserve. 

Arms, the evident muscle in my arms shows how strong you are and that i need you to get by. You've filled out in the last few years which is so lovely to see. Arms with shape make me more comfortable displaying them in the hot summer months. 

Having dark hair has it's positive and negative points but i  how dark my hair is and will always stay with my natural hair colour. Some people say it's boring but to be honest i don't think any other colour would suit me. I also like how prominent my eye brows are because of the thickness and darkness of the hair, it makes them stand out and means i don't have to colour them in. The only down side is the hair on the rest of the body but i will forever go with the phrase natural is good. 

Legs, you are the thing i feel the most guilty about taking for granted what you do, for years I've been so focused on the size of my thighs and how much i want to lose a few pounds on this year without realising that having that extra weight is good. It makes them stronger plus i have need using them more than usual lately which is good. I'm just sorry i don't value what you do enough because without you i wouldn't be able to get anywhere so easily. You are what I'm supported by so why shouldn't i support and love you more. 

Skin, I've never really had many problems with spots or bad skin because you keep so clear and smooth, I really am thankful for this because you give me that healthy glow that i need and want. You feel so delightful to touch especially after moisturising. 

Teeth, You are definitely my favourite feature out of them all because I've never had braces or a filling but you are effortlessly straight and beautiful to look at. Even after all the sugar and caffeine you still stay so perfect. I'm sorry I don;t give you as much care as you deserve and sometimes forget to brush you in the morning if I'm in a rush i promise I'll try stopping that because i do ow you after being so good to be. 

Bum, you always give me joy when i look at you through the mirror sometimes even i can't believe how perky you are. Out of all my body parts i've always loved my bottom, maybe that's why it looks so great. I know i've got a pretty big bum but i wouldn't have it any other way and i actually like the fact it's so big, it compensates for having such little boobs. 

Boobs, some people might see having small boobs as a bad thing but i see it as a blessing so thank you boobs for being the size you are it means you will never get in the way or cause me back pain. Not only will be not be in the way for daily activity but also exercise which i do love so I'm really thankful for that boobies. A handful is more than enough for me personally. 

I am so happy i have done this post and would encourage everyone to do one because it's so positive and feel good. Thank you for reading and let me know what you love about your body.

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Is A Lot Of Interaction Good For You?

So many schools and workplaces are now made so you're able to interact with people whenever and wherever you want, but is this as good as it sounds? Does constant interruption and interaction help with our learning and productivity?

For different lots of research, reading Quiet: The Power Of Introverts In A World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Caine being the main piece of research I've learnt that these developments in this generation couldn't be further from the truth. Yes group work has it's positives including being able to interact with others and collecting different ideas however as people we are most productive and come up with the best ideas by being on our own in total solitude because we have no distractions and other people interrupting you can be incredibly distracting because our brains can only focus on one thing at a time.

By having open plan offices in many workplaces this means you are able to get interrupted at any time and can see what you are doing at any point of the working day. This can disturb introverts massively because they are not in complete solitude and privacy to be able to concentrate in the same way as they could if their office space was structured away from the other offices. This has a lot of negative points on people's health as well such as higher blood pressure, flues, the anxiety that causes fight or flight mode and headaches from the amount of noise and putting extra effort into concentrating because of this.

It doesn't just start in working places, it starts at schools where some classes arrange their tables in groups so students have to face each other and this encourages group work and makes it easier for teachers to put students into groups on a regular basis. As an introvert myself things like group work caused me so much stress and anxiety because i knew that being quiet it would be incredibly hard to add something to the group and when i did i was so paranoid i could be wrong even though if i worked on my own i would've been confident i was right. Teachers would also say things like "make sure everyone took part in the group" as if it was a crime to just sit back and observe what everyone else was saying. Little did they know that on average introverted people get the better grades and are generally more creative because they enjoy solitude. It is no surprise that teachers describe their 'perfect' student as outspoken, charming, enthusiastic, confident and always willing to contribute. It's extremely hard for introverts in this generation because the loudest people are always the ones who get heard even though they might not have put as much effort into their work as the introvert. It's not seen as normal as it used to be for students to do their own thing and spend a significant amount of time on their own it's now seen as rude that they don't want to participate with the rest of the class, teachers might think that something is bothering them or somethings wrong but little do they know some people actually like to be on their own and 'do their own thing' this is when some people feel their best and most people work better on their own. At school as soon as i heard the words "now can you get into groups of 4" or however many the number was i instantly got pangs of anxiety and dread for what was going to come. People underestimate how stressed it makes an introvert and most likely that group of people are going to be extroverted.

I enjoyed lessons such as English and R.E because the teachers hardly ever put us into groups and we could focus on our own work and i believe this is part of the reason why i loved these subjects so much at School. By not having to worry about group work i could totally concentrate on my work by myself. Reading at the start of English lessons meant total solitude which also helped incredibly, people really don't see how much solitude and quietness can be such a positive, motivational thing within creativity. There is nothing like peace and quiet. School's encourage extroverts to be even more extroverted which gains even more anxiety to introverts.

I understand that it's good to teach children at a young age about interaction and the benefits to group work for when they get older and to teach people skills because that is one of the most important skills we need as humans but i think it's been taken to the extreme. We need to take a step back and think of the benefits towards introverts rather than living in a completely extroverted way because a lot of people are not extroverts. I'm not saying it's bad to be loud and charismatic i'm just seeing we need both types of characters and each one has their benefits. We just need ways to complement both introverts and extroverts.

Say No To Labels

I'm sure that people would feel at ease, less anxious and stressful if we all as a society didn't feel the need to label everyone. People shouldn't suddenly be labeled as a specific gender or sexuality just because society thinks this is acceptable and normal. I was thinking of all the different labels that exist and even though we don't nessicarily label ourselfs as certain things such as straight, gay, boy or girl people assume we are one or the other from apperance or who we are interested in. I watched a video by Dodie which provocked these thoughts into my head that just because she's always liked guys and gone out with guys she is attracked to women and would never see herself as being with just guys. So does this mean she's straight? But because she doesn't feel the need to label herself she is totally fine with this situation. I believe that we should all think and be this way because I feel exactly the same way after thinking about what she was saying in her video.

This doesn't just end at sexuality or gender but personality types such as extroverts and introverts. Yes I know I said I was an introvert in one of my latest blog posts I still have extroverted traights although they are small they're still there. Such as feeling good around being people because as much as I love being on my own sometimes I want to go out and chill with friends and maybe be louder than normal. So can we really label ourselves as anything because being labelled is resricting yourself from so much that wouldn't it be better to get rid of labels altogether?

I can't stand it when people especially people I don't know that wel make statements about me such as 'oh you're very quiet' because they are saying i'm very quiet all of the time which is not true. I can't even imagine how hard it is for people who don't fit into the social norm such as transgenders, gays, extremely introverted people or people with mental health issues because with labels come assumptions which are rawly true.

So if you are someone right now who hasn't discovered their sexuality or gender do not feel pressured in anyway to discovering it and telling people because you should not feel any urgency to let people know who you are attracted to. It's your body, your mind and your business and yours only. Labels are not important whatsoever, they don't mean anything. What matters is staying true to who you are and if you are not comfortable with who you are right now then change it or accept it depending on the circumstances of whether it will help you. When discovering who you are or you're at a difficult part of your life right now, only you matter at that point.

Labels develop unaccurate conceptions and false judgement on people who are given labels by society which is the people around them. They give no justic to anyone which is why I believe it would be better to totally bannish labels of all form however this obviously can't and won't happen but I can dream.

Basically I want to know what you think of labels and how they've affected you whether it's negative or positive, let me know.  

No More Negativity

I've been through a tough few months deciding whether to get someone out of my life and not have anything to do with them because of the negativity they've been causing not just recently but the past few years. So i'm going to give you my advice if you are in the same or similar situation because it can be incredibly difficult especially if you're really close to them.

Everybody changes and we're all constantly changing all the time due to the people we associate with, the environment we're in, situations that are happening at the moment and things such as alcohol and drugs. So it's completely normal that the people we are friends with and family change and we adapt to that if it's good change or to do with the situation they're in however when people start changing for the worse and drop you for people who don't necessarily care about them is when you have to think, do they deserve my friendship, or are they worth my time and effort any more? If someone can't see they're being unacceptable or even rude to someone they're meant to be close to then it's a case of them not caring and totally being blind to what is going on. There could be a lot of different reasons as to why they are acting this way however none of those reasons are acceptable. 

If someone you are close to is changing like this then try and let them know early on whilst they are not completely oblivious as to what is happening and don't put up with it for too long because they won't learn after two or three chances. People can be so convincing when they say they'll change and you mean so much to them sadly though some people, some being the operative word don't change no matter what. 

Yes this person might mean the world to you and when you think about telling them you want nothing more to do with them all you can remember is the great times you had together. You might have even spent the best times you've ever had with this person but what you've got to remember is it will never be the same again. People change we grow have different hobbies and interests and can't look back in this way. Nothing good will ever come when you compare times, people or yourself, EVER. The only thing you'll get out of it is frustration and sadness. 

The thing i found when this person wasn't in my life any more is i didn't miss them as much as i thought i would. Yes it's hard when you're getting your head around it and they're still pestering you but after all of that it gets so much easier. I really don't think of this person at all any more even though we were extremely close at one point and i never look back at that friendship any more.I just think of all the negativity that isn't in my life any more. Life is a lot calmer, peaceful and relaxed now she isn't in it any more. That's how i want my life to be like. I don't want to be involved in ridiculous drama and get drunk all the time that isn't me. I don't like alcohol and getting totally wasted. That just isn't me and i shouldn't have to give an excuse to not drinking, if you don't want to drink don't drink. 

Even though we have only recently gone our separate ways our friendship had disintegrated a very long time ago. Like no matter how hard you tried things were just awkward and we never really spent any time when it was just the two of us. My main message here is it does get better and please don't look back at the friendship or even relationship when it was really good. 

Being An Introvert In An Extroverted World

It is utterly exhausting being an introvert in a world where everybody wants and feels the need to be heard, in this world most people thrive off attention and social situations where attention is given to them in crowds of people. Being an introvert this would literally be my worst nightmare some introverts may even suffer anxiety and panic attacks if they were in this situation. No matter what career you go into you are more than likely to be surrounded by extroverts who are eager to be the best and use there personalities to charm people and are able to grow and develop themselves by being around people with similar personalities and interests. Introverts come across as very private people who reserve themselves for people they are extremely close to and are not able to let their personalities shine through like extroverts, this does not make them any less worthy or not equal to extroverts. Introverts would find jobs just as a sales person, acting, singing. performing or a public speaker extremely difficult maybe even impossible because you have to express yourself with emotion and connecting with other people. Introverts find it mentally and physically exhausting being around people never mind very extroverted people who use their personality in their jobs. Introverts work better on there own and will find they get a greater amount work done and can concentrate more by being by themselves in a peaceful environment. 

I need my own time to feel re energised to be able to face people whether that's at work, going shopping or meeting with friends. Introverts can come across as selfish because they might pick being by themselves instead of going out with friends who they haven't seen in months. It's so difficult for people to understand intros unless you are one because there are significantly more extroverts in this world and society sees being shy and quiet as weaknesses and as being vulnerable and needy however introverts themselves see themselves as independent, observers and private plus there are such things as shy extroverts and introverts who are confident. These are not weaknesses these are just different ways of living life so what if people prefer to do things on their own and very much step back from situations in which normally people have an instinct to step forward and say their opinion. 

The question introverts dread being asked is 'what did you do this weekend, anything nice?' and you are just stuck there hesitating figuring out how 'staying at home by yourself watching chick flicks' could sound fun. Especially with going out with friends is what most people normally do on the weekends regardless of this i get excited and look forward to having nights on my own, this is what excitement is to intros. Just because we prefer to spend time on our own this does not meet we don't need friends and like to be on our own all the time. We pick quality over quantity and would rather have one or two friends that we connect with on a deeper and more intense level than extroverts who just love being surrounded by lots of people most of the time. So just because we are very reserves does not mean we are not worth knowing because friendships with introverts will be some of the most valuable friendships you can have. We are the types of people that friends look for advice from and know that we will be there no matter what even if we haven't met in months things will not have changed and that friendship will still be very strong because the people we do have in our life we think a lot of. 

I don't think there will ever be a time where society as a whole will ever understand introverts and the way our brains function because there is much a minority of us. We are constantly being told that it is something we will grow out of and spending so much time on your own is not healthy or why don't you try and make small talk. But none of those things are true and never will be because there is evidence that our brains work differently. 

There are many pros and cons for both introverts and extroverts but what about celebrating both and admiring the different ways we all function. 

Women On Youtube

I truly admire women on youtube because it's a very difficult place for women to get their point of view across on the internet without being smothered in hate, not just from men but other women as well saying things such as "You should be doing beauty vlogs" or "You are a female, your opinion doesn't matter" when in fact most women on youtube bring up incredibly important subjects that need to be heard and spoke about. These subjects include consent, feminism, equality and youtube culture. By putting your yourself on the internet in such an intimate way that it's just you and the camera means that apart from the content the audience is also concentrating on your appearance which gives viewers to comment on this and put you down on your appearance rather than listening to what you have got to say. This means as a woman on youtube you have to be thick skinned more so than a guy because they are more likely to pick out your flaws rather than a guys, this would be due to the fact that femininity is seen as weak which means you are an easy target.

By female youtubers being able to totally blank the negativity on their body image/appearance they are then able to fully concentrate on their content which ends up better for the viewers as well as the content creator because this encourages both parties to concentrate on the content and not about appearances.

I admire beauty gurus as much as other female vloggers but i really do urge females not to go down the beauty route if that's not what they want to do. It's good to step out of your comfort zone and do something different that viewers would not expect the average girl to do this in the long run will get you more respect and satisfaction. I am not subscribed to many beauty gurus but find more female youtubers that do other things such as comedy, film making, general vlogs, daily vloggers, lifestyle and educational because i find there's a lot more passion in these types of videos. Maybe they feel the need to put an extra effort into these videos because they are females doing videos that aren't about make up or they generally extremely passionate about the content they're making but whatever the reason i certainly get so much more pleasure from watching these videos than making a male youtuber playing games constantly for videos or a guy who is obviously only popular because of his good looks. I also find the beauty guru's i do watch are extremely passionate about make up and have an incredible amount of knowledge and even though i don;t really like wearing make up i have total admiration for them because they find so much passion within make up.

I personally watch a lot more female youtubers than male which you may find odd as i am your average female viewer. I find that female youtubers have a lot more educational, important content that i really feed off and get passionate from. I'm not saying that all male vloggers are pointless, i'm just saying that there are a lot more amazing female youtubers than you think. I find that bigger youtubers don't have the most important messages in their content which is extremely sad because they have a wider audience.

If you're female and watch to make content on youtube just remember to just be you and not go into something you don't want to such as beauty. Make video's that you want to make, talk about things that you're passionate about because the viewers will be able to sense your passion and be more likely to listen and take in what you are saying rather than what you look like. It's about looking beyond the face and listening intensely to what is being said.

Youtube Culture

After watching Louise aka Sprinkle Of Glitter's video on this subject i have wanted to do a response to it and let you know how i feel about youtubers from a viewers point of view. 

As much as i love Louise, Zoella, Alfie, Emma Blackery and many other youtubers i would never see them as celebrities or much different to me other than they are well known for what they do as a job. No matter how good the reason is i do not know them one bit in real life which means this does not give me the right to idolize them or think that they are perfect in any form. Idolizing anyone for any reason is unhealthy whether that is a celebrity, youtuber or even someone you know because by idolizing them you are saying that they are perfect in every way and you basically obsess your life around them because of this. Yes it's absolutely fine to look up to someone like a youtuber and maybe take tips from them and observe how they edit their footage or what their writing technique is in there blogs because this means you are not looking up to them personally or idolizing them you are literally just observing their work. This is a lot better than idolizing someone and i think youtubers would appreciate this more because they know as well as watching their footage you are appreciating and making use of how they edit their footage. This also means you are focusing on their work and not them personally. I think it's wrong to idolize anyone personally or their work because even if you are idolizing their footage youtubers may see this as pressure to constantly make sure their footage is 100% perfect all the time which can be extremely unhealthy not just for the youtuber but for you as well. 

Talking about youtube culture makes me think about celebrity culture and how we don't know them either personally and how some celebrities are not famous for any important reason but people still feel the need to idolize them. However it isn't just a one sided thing celebrities need to respect their audience and treat them gratitude because they would not be successful without their audience. 

I feel extremely let down by the way some viewers act towards youtubers by screaming and running up to them, not respecting their personal space or the fact that a lot of youtubers do suffer from anxiety and the audeince know this but still choose to invade their space. In one of Emma Blackery's videos she talks about how a few of her viewers have sent her a message saying they know where she lives and have been hanging around there for a picture with Emma. That is her private space in absolutely no circumstances should people be invading youtubers space in this way because it's going to put a bad light on all of us. Even though youtubers know that not all their viewers are like that and respect that it still is not acceptable and is incredibly rude. These viewers should know Emma suffers from panic attacks and anxiety and things like this only makes it worse.  

To make things easier for viewers as well as youtubers we need to respect their privacy and not invade their private space when they clearly need some alone time. Calm down at events and always remember that youtubers are only human and will be more grateful if you treat them like any other person in a calm manner. Yes it's fun to get excited but screaming non stop and constantly shouting their names is not the way forward. Youtubers need to show respect and always appreciate their viewers/fans and don't be rude.  

Viewers should always remember that we only see a snippet of their life even on daily vlogs we only have 10 minutes of edited footage. Just because we feel as if we know our favourite youtubers because we watch all their videos does not mean we know them personally in any way. Off camera these youtubers could be having the shittiest time or doing anything so we really need to remember this before we start looking up to them or even worse idolizing them. This footage is not only short but it's edited to the extent where they only let us see what they want us to see. 

I hope this post has helped you think about viewer and creators relationships. 

Money Isn't Everything

It's so sad that people feel the need to go to uni so they are able to get a good traditional well paid job such as being a lawyer or doctor not just because they want to have a successful career but because they want a job that will earn them lots of money. Many people think that with having a well paid job all their problems will disappear especially in the economy we are in today when if you don't have a certain amount of money things such as buying a house or having children and able to provide for them becomes a struggle. However you shouldn't feel the need by your parents or society to go to uni and get a well paid job if that is not what you want. What is wrong with getting a regular job and getting higher on the ladder through experience and being able to say you have done regular jobs such as cleaning, being a waitress or retail work. Or even just sticking at those kinds of jobs if that's what makes you happy. Yes you might not have the money for a fancy apartment or a brand new car but would it really be worth it if you were forced into something you didn't want to do? Would you be proud of yourself for doing something because of society or your parents and not for you? Would that really be worth a new apartment and a swanky new car? I don't think so.

So if you are one of those people who just want to go to Uni because your friends are going or it looks like a laugh and you don't have much interest in further education or just want a job that will earn you a lot, don't, don't do it because would that really be worth the loan and the hard work at Uni. Only go to Uni if you know full well that is what you want to do and no one else is forcing you.

I hate the fact that when you're at school or college when people ask you what you want to do after Uni or education they expect something extra ambitious and if you just said anything really or I don't know they would frown upon you because you haven't suddenly got your life planned making loads of money. Never rush into something you might not even want. There is more to life than money and careers.   

Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is someone that most people go through whether that's through friends, school, family or society. There are many forms of peer pressure so it's very likely that you are dealing with peer pressure whether that's to look a certain way or doing things you wouldn't normally do. If you are feeling pressure from friends i advice you to tell someone and remember that you don't have to do what they want to do and at the end of the day you will be more respected and happy with yourself if you stick to your guns than being a push over and doing what your 'friends' ask you to do. You need to make sure you make the right decision for you because if you make the wrong decision and give in you have to live with your actions for the rest of your life. Whether that is pressure to go to uni from family or go into a certain career path it's vital you make the decision for yourself and no one else no matter how happy it makes them. Your happiness should always come first. 

Peer pressure between friends and trying to fit into the 'popular' group at school is extremely common but if you need to change anything about who you are to fit into a group means they aren't meant to be your friends. They aren't worth your time or effort. Make sure you surround yourself with people that make you feel good and comfortable with who you are and always appreciate you and the relationship you have together because that's what you need at school when you will probably be very vulnerable. School is a time when you are still discovering who you are and maybe your sexuality and it's also a starter for romantic relationships and hormonal changes with dealing with all this and peer pressure can be too much for young people which can lead to mental disorders and anxiety. Not only will there be peer pressures from friends but also pressure to do well in school from teachers, government and also maybe parents. Someone as young as 14 shouldn't have to deal with all this pressure.

I am someone who is guilty for giving into peer pressure because i like making people happy and as a younger person i was so determined to seek approval. I regret this now because i should've known that the only approval i need is from me, getting their approval from school means nothing to be now so why did i feel so much pressure to be liked and approved? Now i know i don't need anyone else's approval i will make sure i don't make decisions i'm not comfortable with and always make sure i don't hurt others with my actions because of pressure. Your happiness is worth more than someone's approval even if they're a family member or friend. I shall always put me first when it comes to things like this but not in a selfish way. Yes it might seem selfish to others but you should always put you first. Nothing is worse than feeling guilty for your actions that just aren't you but you did it due to peer pressure because things like that will not get you the respect you want. 

Peer pressure doesn't just come from people but also society or media, as a female i constantly feel pressure to look a certain way and i shouldn't feel this way, no one should. No matter how many times i tell myself i look fine just as i am i see perfectly skinny girls with curves in all the right places in magazines or in clothing stores and it's not just something you can forget about. As a society we are all bombarded with how we should look, dress and weigh and not just girls but boys as well. Boys are told they should be muscular and masculine and girls are told they need to be skinny and must wear make up. We should not have to live up to the media's expectations and focus on the things that do matter such as education, poverty and simply being kind, decent beings. 

If you are struggling through pressure from any kind of situation i am always here to listen and show understanding. 

My Chosen Dresses For This Summer

I have never really been a girl for dresses however the last few months i've seen some really lovely dresses and wanted to start wearing them to make a change and feel more summery when the sun finally does come out. Nothing's better than being able to dress for the summer whether that's wearing skirts, shorts, sandals, flip flops, dresses or vest tops especially after having to wear several layers just to feel remotely warmed up. In this post i'm going to show you pictures of me in different dresses and tell you why I love them where i got them from and what you could wear them with. I am not good at finding things that match my outfit so please beware when i do make suggestions because you're ideas will most likely be better but i'll try anyway.

I love this dress because the texture is so soft and it's a different kind of fabric than i normally buy for dresses so it makes a nice change. The fabric is also quite stretchy which is good because if i get bloated the dress moves with me which is extremely comfortable especially for a dress you want to wear all day rather than for an event. I like the way the dress goes tight at the waist to emphasis my small waist and then flows out till the end. I'm not sure what jacket i could wear with this dress maybe a leather jacket or a small dark cardigan maybe grey or black. For shoes i would wear black/brown dolly shoes or a nice pair of heels if i was wearing it to go out. I think that most footwear would go well with this outfit. I got this dress from New Look at around £20 maybe less, bargain i would say. 

This dress is very lose and comfortable which is one of the main factors i go for when i buy a dress i don't want something i feel i can't move in freely or even breath in. I love the floral print with the black top it makes it look like i'm wearing a high waist skirt however this dress is a million times more comfortable. The skirt bit is very thin which will be very good for the hot weather and would be ideal to wear with leggings or tights if you wanted to. With this dress i would wear a denim jacket because it would bring even more colour to the dress and add to the summery look. This dress was from ASDA and i love it. I've already wore it to many days out and haven't had it that long. I would also wear a lovely pair of sandals with this dress.

This dress is more for a night out in the summer rather than wearing it in the day. The lacy bit at the top gives the dress a lovely sexy yet sophisticated look to the dress and makes it so much more than just a black dress. I love how it flows straight down but also shapes the body in a complementary way. This dress is surprisingly comfortable and the fabric is very decent and has an incredible feel to it, i got this dress from New Look at around £20. I have already wore this dress out and loved it. I would wear this dress with a nice pair of black heels or if you wanted to add some colour maybe black and white heels or even boots if you were weathering it in the winter. 

I love this dress because it's got a bright print throughout the whole dress and i need more dresses with pattern and brighter colours so this dress definitely matches that criteria. I would again wear this dress with a denim jacket or a brown jacket, something simple so it doesn't clash with the dress. I would also wear a casual pair of flip flops or sandals with it. As you can see this picture isn't recent and this is the oldest dress but i still love it as much because of the print and i simply haven't got a dress like it. The bottom doesn't really flow like my others do and is a much simpler design. I got this dress from Primark for only a fiver, what a bargain.  

Eat What You Want

I'm getting sick and tired of people saying that every single type of food group is 'bad for you'. Yes things are going to be bad for you if you eat them all the time in large quantities such as chocolate, cheese, ice cream or fried eggs however this should not make you feel as if you can't eat them or guilty when over snacking once in a blue moon. As long as you're healthy and happy nothing else should matter never should you be self concious of what you are eating because oh no it's meant to be bad for you. Everyone loves chocolate, crisps, eggs, ice cream and cheese and have loved them for years, so why are people getting so obsessive over what people should and should not be eating now? It hasn't harmed anyone before so why the hell should it now?

One key factor to living a happy, healthy life is to eat what the hell you want because food is amazing. Being able to eat freely with a variety of different food groups is guarantee to lead a healthy life not cutting out foods completely that maybe deemed unhealthy or 'junk food'. Fair enough if you want to lose a few pounds that's fine but don't feel you have to rule your life around what you should and shouldn't eat because this can be a dangerous attitude towards food and cause disorders towards food.

Ask yourself this question would you rather be able to eat freely but maybe not be the size you desire to be or become obsessive towards what foods are seen as good and bad foods and completely bad the foods that are bad for you and not feel fulfilled?

By cutting foods out of your diet that are seen as bad for you you're actually losing a lot of essential fats and carbohydrates you been in your diet. What i'm trying to say is there isn't such a thing as 'bad foods' because everything is good for you in moderation and variety is key. By having a variety of different food types you are guarantee to get enough energy and nourishment. There is more to life than what you're eating and you shouldn't have to focus all your energy on what you're 'supposed' to be eating.

Perfect Doesn't Mean Happy

After some time of trying to be more self aware and find ways to keep improving different aspects of my life i have come to realise that generally the people who think highly of themselves and constantly look for things in others to criticise are not happy and fulfilled in their own lives. So next time you feel as if you're not good enough or want to be successful as someone else whether that's at work or at home you need to ask yourself are you happy in yourself? It doesn't matter what you do as a career or if you're single or in a successful relationship because as long as you're happy and content it really shouldn't matter. Some of the most successful people aren't happy, nowhere near happy. You need to appreciate yourself and realise what you're good at and emphasis those things because when you realise other people appreciate these factors which at least someone does you will be confident in yourself. If you lack confidence like i do you need to constantly reassure yourself you are good enough. No one needs to be perfect to be happy and why should we think that perfect means happy? Perfection doesn't exist and until we all realise this maybe then we will all have more chance of being happy and content in life and especially in ourselves. 

10 Things That Annoy Me

I have decided to do a light hearted post after a few serious ones so i hope you enjoy :) 

1. People who dish out a lot of banter constantly that could offend people yet they can't take a joke when the table is turned. These types of people really annoy me because if you can't take a joke yourself then you shouldn't be dishing them out, fair enough if you can take it and let it go over you. 
2. Parents not shutting your bedroom when you repeatedly tell them to shut it. If it's shut before they come in they should shut it after coming into your room. It takes too much effort to have to shut it again every time they come in.
3. When people ask me "why are you so quiet?" i know some of those people might just be curious however it gets annoying, you don't hear someone asking someone else "why are you so loud?". It's just who i am, not everyone feels the need to be heard all the time. 
4. Excessive public displays of affection. Yes i agree seeing couples holding hands or pecking each others cheeks is cute, it's great to see people happy together but if they are literally on top of each other or eating each others faces it is very sickening and awkward to see. There is something called a bedroom for those kind of displays of affection if you can call it that. 
5. Skinny girls saying that they're fat. Yes i get that everyone has their insecurities, still complaining that you're fat when you clearly are not is very insulting to people who do suffer with weight issues and  this could make them feel even more insecure than they already are. If you're saying it to get attention then you are 100% knobhead. Most people who do have weight issues would not complain about it in this manner because they probably don't want to talk about it.
6. When you go in a room and completely forgot why you went in there, why does your brain stop working when you need it to work. This also makes you look like an idiot just randomly going into a room and going out straight away. 
7. Guys that brag about having loads of sex with different girls. Women are not objects, we are actual people with actual feelings, believe it or not. So hearing a guy talk in this manner is extremely off putting and gross. More than likely these types of guys are ironically the guys who are not getting any so they feel the need to brag. Well it's not surprising the attitude they have towards women. 
8. Sexist, racism and homophobic pigs, lets just leave it there. 
9. When people judge you before they've even met you. Wow you must think a lot of that person to make assumptions before you've met them. 
10. When you tell your parents something you think they'll take as a joke and they take it completely seriously. You try and explain it's meant to be a joke but they don't listen and rant on to you as if you're 8 again still not realising it was supposed to taken as a joke. Never tell your parents anything like this because they will not take it as a joke. It's like they want a reason to have ago at you. 

Bullying Outside Of School

Throughout your life there will always be people who dislike you or try to put you down whether that's at school, work, home life or simply with a group of friends and one of them may dislike you for no real reason whatsoever. It doesn't matter who you are whether you spend your life trying to be nice to others or do good things for people, you will always find people who are going to be mean and nasty for no reason other than seeing you as an easy target. What some people don't understand is that bullying doesn't just happen at school it can happen all through life or at any period. I'm going to talk about different situations outside of school which bullying can happen which can be common.

Dealing with bullying at work can be hard because you may be unsure where to turn to for help. It's not like at school where you have specific people to turn to for help or just to let them know about it such as friends or teachers you might be really close to. Work environments can be very stressful in which you might feel less welcome to let someone know what is happening. You could have someone you are very close to at work who you could tell, this would really help and they will probably encourage you to tell someone even though you don't feel inclined to. Bullying in a workplace can also be difficult to deal with because although you can leave and find another job it isn't that easy. Jobs are hard to come by and this job maybe a job you have been working hard to get for a long time. If this is the case do not let someone who is trying to bring you down get the better of you and make you want to quit. The best advice I can give in this situation is avoid them at all costs and if you can't avoid them ignore the nastiness and smile through gritted teeth. I know it's easier said than done however just remember you are the bigger person and you are always going to find nasty people wherever you are which means don't assume the grass is greener on the other side. If you can stick up for yourself this should help immensely. It can be difficult at work but if you can without getting into trouble stick up for yourself plus do it in a calm way else they'll know they've got the better of you. Another strategy that could work well is being really nice to them, this could totally confuse them and even if they are getting to you it'll show that you don't really care. If none of this does work and they carry on I will urge you to tell someone until something serious is done to stop it, no one should have to deal with bullying whatever age they are. If they're working in the same section as you you could ask if you could work in a different section to them or tell your boss if they could put you and that person in different areas so your not working together, it could literally be as easy as that. Never give up a job you love that is the most important advice I can give. Plus remember that everyone has to work with someone they don't like and most of the time you just have to let it go over your head and not take any notice of them.

In my opinion the worst kind of bullying is bullying that happens at home where you're meant to feel safe and secure. When I was being bullied at school I always looked forward to going home because it was a place where I felt most comfortable and could get away from the bullying so I dread to think what it's like for people who get bullied at home. If someone's being bullied at home they could be getting bullied at school as well so they can never get away from it. Typical bullying that happens at home could be when Mum or Dad get a new partner after separating and they have step siblings that could be bullying them or even worse their Step Mum or Dad could be bullying them. Being bullied by adults can be very harmful to younger people because it could be manipulative, verbal abuse basically bullying that isn't easy to identify. Bullying a child or young adult in this way can be seriously harmful and really affect the way their brain develops they might think it's acceptable to act this way towards others or feel significantly insecure and self conscious. It's hard to give advice in a situation that is so serious. You must tell someone such as your Mum or Dad or even a teacher, someone that won't judge you and is likely to believe you. It's extremely upsetting to think that some people feel like total strangers or prisoners in their own homes. The best advice I can give is as soon as you can financially and when you feel ready move out, get away from that situation. The sooner you can move out the better or if you're not old enough maybe there's an Auntie or other relation you can move in with. Never give up trying to find other options and always do what's best for you.

Bullying at college or Uni can be harder to deal with than at school because there might not be a specific person to go to for help or just to talk to about it that's professional. People could bully you more on what you're wearing or the way you look because you get to wear your own clothes etc. If you don't have many friends bullies might see you as an easy target plus with less teachers around than at school bullies are more likely to get away with it unless you let someone know. Try and find people who have the same interests as you and you will make friends easily. I found that making friends at college was easier than at school because you have more flexibility plus it's easier to find people with the same interests as you. Being with friends makes it easier to deal with bullying and telling them what is happening will help a lot. Don't feel guilty if you feel like you're spending too much time on your work because that will help with your future where as messing about all the time won't. So always put your work first especially if you're like me and have to work harder than most to get a good grade. You might also feel as if you're being bullied in a group of 'friends' so when you do pick your group of friends at college, school, uni or outside of these areas remember it isn't right if someone is putting you down or that group of friends as a whole. I urge you to get out of that friendship group if this is happening to you because friends are meant to make you happy and lift your spirits not put you down or 'joke' about your insecurities. It is actually surprising how many friendship groups have that one person they pick on. Always have friends that make you happy and that you can trust because life is hard enough to deal with without having friends who make you feel like crap.

If you are being bullied I advice you to read my post called How to Deal With Bullying which goes into more detail on how to deal with it whereas this was more about what other types of situations that bullying can happen in.

What Is Consent?

After doing a blog post on rape culture and hearing the awful things that have been happening in the youtube community i have decided to do a blog post on consent and what it is. So basically if you haven't heard already a few male youtubers have admitted to sexually abusing younger girls after a few of these girls came forward about being victimised by these youtubers. I cannot stress enough about the fact that you must get consent before any kind of sexual activity whether that's just kissing or sexual intercourse. I shall link a few videos on this subject, they are all a must watch. 

Consent isn't just saying yes to someone who wants to have sexual relations with you it's body language, are they reluctant to do anything sexual? Is there any hesitation whatsoever? Are they being quiet? Do they look nervous? Do they look like they don't want to be there? Is there no enthusiasm or little enthusiasm? Before having any kind of sexual activity with someone whether that's your long term partner or someone you met at a club. You need to take all these things into consideration because yes doesn't always mean yes plus sometimes a simple yes answer isn't enough, you need their full consent. It doesn't matter how many times you've had sex with that person beforehand you must always ask for consent every single time for the reason that one day they might feel like it and the next day they might have no interest in having sex or any kind of sexual contact. This is why rape is so common, people in relationships may just assume their partner wants sex because they're in a relationship however this is not the case and more people need to realise they need to have consent before any kind of sexual contact no matter who the other person is and how long you've known that person. 

If someone says no after being asked for consent that is rape, plain and simple. Plus someone doesn't just have to say no for it to be rape, if they make any kind of suggestion that they don't want to have sex that also is rape. Just because someone might do it in a more manipulative way to make the victim feel as if it's their fault or their partner isn't doing wrong to them that is just as bad if not a whole lot worse as that is emotional abuse as well as sexual abuse. 

From my research i have come up with some information that you might not have already known about consent. This is information that people need to know. 

If someone, boy or girl is drunk they can't give consent so if you take advantage of a drunk person without them saying yes, a yes with meaning then that is rape. 

It's classified rape if she or he says no in any way at all, they might not say 'no' but if they're indicating it in any way, in the eyes of the law it is the same thing. 

It is still rape even if no violence is used, the person committing it could go to prison, get a criminal record and be put on the sex offenders register. Not only that but you can seriously damage someone from these actions, victims will never be able to forget such hideous behaviour from someone that they could've possibly spent the rest of their live with. 

Everybody has a choice in having sex, if you feel any kind of doubt you must realise that you have a choice no matter how much pressure you are put under. 

Just because you are with your loved one for the night doesn't mean you have to have sex, you can do kissing and other stuff and not have sex. 

Remember that everyone has different limits and your limit is what matters most. Don't let others cross that limit if you don't want them to. 

Make sure enough communication is going on between you and your partner or the person you're having sex with before and during sexual activity so that it's easy to give consent or to stop giving consent in a way that's comfortable, communication makes things more relaxed. It's easier to know that consent is being given when having enough communication as you'll be able to tell if they're relaxed and their body language should be more noticeable because that is a part of communication. 

Lex Croucher - What Is Consent? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2kS6Pdjjng

Charlie McDonnell - Sex & Consent

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GVfesRwvsQ

Laci Green - WANNA HAVE SEX? (CONSENT 101)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TD2EooMhqRI 

Sorry it has been so long since my last blog post. 

Easy Guide To Being Healthier

Nothing is more important than being healthy because being healthier is key to living a happy, positive, fulfilled life. I have come up with a few easier tips into leading a healthier life without the horror of craving junk food. It is not easy cutting down on sugar and giving up your favourite treats however these tips are only small tips that you probably won't even notice. I hope they work for you and easy to stick to because if i can do it so can you. 

• If you have two sugars in your tea or coffee cut down to one. It might taste a lot different to start with and you probably won't feel satisfied, yet if you stick to doing this for a few days you will get used to the taste which means you will eventually feel satisfied with one sugar. Maybe you could then even cut down to no sugar at all. If you drink tea or coffee a lot with 2 or even 3 sugars you are going to be getting through a lot of sugar.
• Read the labels. You may think you are eating a really healthy snack such as a yoghurt despite this there is likely to be a high level of sugar in that yoghurt or breakfast bar. You do not know what you are putting into your body unless you check what is in the food you're eating. I'm not saying be conscious all the time just be aware that 'healthy' stacks are sometimes not as healthy as you think they are.
• When going grocery shopping if you have the time compare labels because you might find two products that are the same thing but one of them may have less artificial sugars or more naturally produced. It is a simple thing to do without feeling the affects of cutting down. 
• Do at least 10 minutes of exercise everyday whether that's taking a walk or dancing to your favourite songs, it has been proven that even 7 minutes of exercise will reduce stress, make you happier and healthier. There are so many benefits to doing exercise please don't see it as a chore. Exercise makes you appreciate your body and makes you motivated in every other aspect of you life. Exercise isn't just about being physically fit it benefits the mind as well. 
• Always eat your 5 a day, i  know this might sound cliché but it is a must. Always have fruit and veg in your diet because these are the food types you need to provide energy and nourishment in your body. Make sure you also have a variety of different fruit and veg in your diet ever day because then you know that you are getting enough vitamins and minerals in your body. 
• Drink enough water. Especially in the summer make sure you drink enough water so that you are constantly washing away anything bad in your body and keeping it hydrated throughout the day. Not drinking enough water can cause headaches, dizziness, dehydration, blotchy skin and heartburn. To keep feeling refreshed throughout your day make sure enough water is going into your system. 
• Get enough sleep every night. Sleep is essential to making sure your body can function every day. To feel totally energized and ready for the day you need at least 8 hours sleep however make sure you don't have too much sleep because your body will feel more tired when you are awake because it will get used to having so much sleep. No one wants to waste their life sleeping so make sure you get 8-10 hours sleep, no more no less. Without enough sleep your mind and body can't function properly because you will have no energy, you may find that your bones and joints will ache as well as your eyes. Not getting enough shut eye can be extremely dangerous and lead to serious illnesses or diseases. If you have trouble sleeping i will advice you to go see a doctor.
• Swap snacks for healthier options such as a chocolate bar to a cereal bar or even fruit, make sure you find something that will make you feel fuller for longer because there's nothing worse than having a craving for junk food. 
• Know when to stop binging. If you are like me once you start binging on junk food you can't stop no matter how full you are. Make sure you don't just gobble food down like me and recognise when your body is full and doesn't need any more sugar. 
• Take your time. If you are eating a treat or anything really take your time eating it and appreciate it, by doing this it will make you feel fuller than just gobbling it down. I know it might taste so good that you just want to eat it nevertheless by taking your time you can truly appreciate it. By doing this all the time it will encourage you to eat less. 

I hope this helps you on becoming healthier :)

Rape Culture

I know this is an extremely serious topic to do a blog post on however i believe that this issue doesn't get talked about enough. The fact that basic human rights are not evident, are not considered in rape culture to this very day angers me so much. Okay so i'm just going to get on with this post and have a complete rant on how this is not just sexist but discriminating, horrifying, degrading, judgemental and completely wrong in every way possible. 

Rape culture is when rape is normalised due to the fact the blame gets switched onto the victim, this is where you may have heard of sayings such as "what does she expect walking alone at this time?" or "she asked for it" people may think this is the case because of what she was wearing at the time, if she gave any impression that she liked the rapist. Never does it occur to these narrow minded, sexist, completely uneducated people that it was the rapists fault that he must have been sick in the head to do such an abusive thing to a woman who had no idea what was going to happen to her. Do these judges, professional judges that have done god knows how much studying to be a judge actually believe that the victims of such a horrific crime asked for it? Do they honestly think that if the power was in the victim's hands that they would let this happen and have to suffer with the consequences for the rest of their lives? Lets take another crime for example shooting someone. Would you blame the person being shot because the shooter assumed he was wearing a bulletproof vest? No because that is completely irrational and irrelevant just like blaming a victim of rape because of what they were wearing. It baffles me that people, judges anyone would even consider it being the victims fault in anyway whatsoever. Women should feel free to wear whatever they want at what time they want, wherever they are and not feel the need to carry pepper spray or feel anxious if they see a group of men or even one man walking towards them or behind, they should not have to look around and be on guard. The reason women feel they need to do these things is because men get away with it, men get away with rape which will encourage more rape because the blame is switched even before each side's stories are told. 

The objectification of women's bodies in rape culture, media and pop culture gives the impression to men that women don't have feelings, that women aren't even human beings and are treated worse than animals due to the fact some men only want them for their bodies and their bodily functions. Basically comparing them to sex toys. Regardless of all this mistreatment towards women, women go through more pain, more struggle to get to where they want to go. People need to understand that women have ambition, hidden strength and feelings just as men do, yes we maybe a different gender but we have the same needs. In many music videos women are sexualised wearing next to nothing, containing provoking and sexual behaviour/gestures whereas men are fully clothed, seen as the dominating person and wearing formal clothes to show them as higher up to women. The outrageous behaviour in music videos like these are that when younger teenagers are watching this they're going to think that it's normal for women to act like that and guys are going to think it's normal to always play the dominant role to his future girlfriend and that they should be seen as higher up and not equal. 

A shocking statistic showed that 70% of rape victims knew the rapist before the incident which totally shows that what someone is wearing or their behaviour towards the abuser has 0% impact on whether someone will be sexually abused. This fact is utterly scary because the victim and the rapist could already be in a relationship or be living together which means the chances are it has happened more than once. This also proves that rape isn't just something that happens at night while someone is intoxicated walking home alone from a night out it can happen anywhere whether that's in a working environment, at home, in any public building or public area. 

1 in 5 women have experienced some form of sexual abuse (since the age of 16). So basically in an average class room 2 or 3 girls will be sexually abused, this is a truly distressing amount of women. Women have enough to deal with without the concept of constantly thinking in the back of their minds that it might be them or feeling scared if a man simply pays them a compliment because why would a man pay a woman a compliment without wanting something. The fact things have got so bad women, girls are afraid to walk alone in their own neighbourhood because of this concept. 

I do not want to go on about this too long but if you are interested in reading more about this topic i will link you with a website with more statistics. I know it is highly unlikely that rape culture will ever die down but i have come up with a few ways we can decrease it and make things more positive. 

Respect the fact that women have the same needs as men and that we are not sexual objects and never should be made to feel that way. Women have died fighting for equal rights to men so we should not let those respectful women down and follow their footsteps into making sure women's rights are heard, loud and clear. Women should feel free to talk about their sexual activity and not be ridiculed for it because everyone has the same needs. Make sure that men are not always seen as the dominant character whether that's in relationships, work, pop culture and in the media. 

Make sure that if you hear someone say a sexist or degrading joke towards women or rape let them know that that kind of language is not acceptable. If you're a female say you don't feel comfortable with them talking in that manner, you don't have to be aggressive about it just let them know politely, most of the time that has more affect then shouting down someone's throat. 

If someone ever tells you they've been raped whether that's a stranger or someone you know make sure you take them very seriously. Make sure you assure them if they are in doubt that it was the rapists fault and you will support them no matter what.

Always communicate with your partner make sure they know if you don't feel comfortable with anything or if they are mistreating you in any way. They might not realise so always be honest and communicate about it. Make sure you always have consent when in a sexual relationship and both people trust each other.  

When reading magazines or watching/reading any type of media that you think critically about the messages being conveyed about men and women such as in music videos, songs, magazine articles. From a personal one i read the other day it was about Heidi Klum who saved her son and Nanny from downing. All the media cared about was the fact she had a nip slip and what a 'humiliation' it must have been not about how amazingly strong this women is to save not just one person but two from drowning while making sure she doesn't drown herself. Heidi was a strong hero and the media only care about her appearance. Plus make sure you don't believe everything you read and always think critically such as the roles they are portraying to men and women and how you can prevent this from being the norm and happening in everyday life. 

Finally just generally be respectful to others, if someone doesn't like being hugged don't hug them, if someone doesn't like any type of physical contact don't touch them remember to respect people's personal space because everyone is different, no two people are the same.

I know this has been a really long post but its one i've been wanting to go since i started blogging, so please be respectful and don't leave sexist or degrading comments in reply because i don't want to waste my time reading that crap. Thank you for reading i really do appreciate it especially for this post :) 

http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/Statistics2.php 

Summer Is Coming

Today has been such a good day hanging out with my best friend in the sun, enjoying the sun with an ice cold drink while recovering from a hangover. It's very uplifting that the rain has gone and summer is coming. Good things about summer is it encourages you to eat healthier because you don't want something heavy and dense on a summers day such as a full English or chocolate cake, you want things that are refreshing and light such as salads, fruit and ice cold smoothies. The summer also makes you drink more water because you're sweaty and need hydrating which also adds to being healthier.

Having really crappy weather recently with all the rain, flooding and windy cold days makes us appreciate summer even more because we are not used to hot days on a regular basis. English weather is so unpredictable that you could get all the different types of weather conditions in one day. Having to wear layer on top of layer in the winter months makes it feel so good to be able to wear shorts, skirts, dresses without leggings or tights and crop tops without freezing your butt off although that does come with one downfall and that is the nightmare of having to shave your legs constantly which has to be one of the biggest chores for a girl, thank god i don't have long legs.

If you are inside on the internet just take an hour or even half an hour to go outside and really appreciate this sunny weather because you never know it might not last long and i assure you it will brighten up your day, quite literally.

When it's sunny in Britain it makes you feel like you're not missing out if you wanted to go abroad on holiday and maybe you couldn't afford it or couldn't book the right time off work because weather is a massive factor tourists look for when travelling to another country. You never know you might have wanted to go to Spain but it could be raining there and really sunny here. Make sure you plan trips out while we still have the sun this summer because having the sun makes it that much better especially if you're going to the zoo, visiting attractions or going to a theme park etc.

I hope you enjoy this sun and get your tans all topped up this summer, sorry it has been so long since my last post, been so busy. Hope you enjoyed reading it :)

Discussing My Top 5 Favourite Youtubers

In the last year i've got into a routine of finding new youtubers and constantly watching all their different videos. At the moment i am subscribed to over 100 different youtubers so i'm going to talk about my favourites and insight you into why they are all so amazing and persuade you to check them out if you haven't already (i'm sure you've heard of most of them before). 

Louise aka Sprinkle Of Glitter

Louise has to be one of my favourite youtubers. Her bubbly, warm, outgoing personality will have you falling in love with her videos. Louise's storytelling skills are amazing and just have you in awe of how hilarious she is and her very Miranda like comedy. Louise does a variety of different videos such as chatty ones which are my favourite because it feels more intimate as she's telling you something personal about her life, make over looks, look books, colabs, advice videos, beauty halls and videos about motherhood so if you don't like beauty videos there are other types you can watch. She also has a vlogging channel where you get to see what she gets up to and my favourite vlogs are the ones with her and Zoella, you can tell how much they bounce off each other. Once you start watching Louise's videos you won't be able to stop. 

Dan Howell aka Danisnotonfire

Dan was one of the first youtubers that i watched and got me into watching youtube videos. As well as being very hilarious and comical Dan's videos are very relatable. He talks about the different awkward situations he's been in which are beyond hilarious and how this doesn't help his awkwardness around other people. Dan is one of those types that you instantly connect with as a shy/unpopular person plus his videos will help make you feel less of a fail. I could spend all day watching Dan's videos because they're so funny and accurate.

Emma Blackery 

Emma has to be one of the funniest people on youtube, her no bullshit attitude will have you falling in love with her personality. She's a lot like marmite, you either love her or hate her however i'm sure most people love her. She has only been on youtube for about a year and is already incredibly successful on youtube having just over half a million subscribers. Not only does she make hilarious videos full of comedy but she also writes songs, plays guitar and performs, could this girl be any more talented. Emma also gives advice like no one else, she doesn't bullshit around she says it how it is and makes sure the message she wants to portray is being portrayed and i love her for that. Emma will always be one of my top three youtubers because she knows how to keep it real. 

Zoe Sugg aka Zoella

Zoe has to be one of the sweetest, nicest youtubers out there right now, Being one of the most popular British youtubers ever she has not let her successful change her in any way whatsoever. Zoella is just as lovely now as she was from the beginning of her career. She is a beauty guru who mainly does videos on hair, make up, look books, halls, colabs and advice. Zoe also has a vlog channel where she vlogs her hectic life from Playlist live, traveling around Europe to staying in at home with friends. Even though she is practically famous you still feel you can relate to the girl that started off making videos in her bedroom. Zoe and Louise's friendship is also my favourite. 

Lex Croucher aka Trannosauruslexxx

Watching Lex's videos makes me feel like i've learnt something and i love that because it makes me want to watch more and learn more from her. She is seriously underrated and deserves so much more acknowledgement and many more subscribers. Lex does videos on campaigns, documents, gives to charity, tells us hilarious stories and insighting us with amazing and shocking facts. I am so happy i have found her channel because Lex's videos are unique and different from any other youtuber. 

Hope you enjoyed reading about my favourite youtubers and please check out each one of them. Here are the links to their channels. Hope you enjoyed reading :)

Louise 

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfAEEhKikW1676DCa_0OWLA

Dan

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjylN-4QCpn8XJ1uY-UOgA

Emma

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCebpq6lNn_oV_Y2XiRzR3Vg

Zoe

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWRV5AVOlKJR1Flvgt310Cw

Lex 

http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRa48B9_dKNRPum0z040Ozw

Are You A Cat Or Dog Person?

throughout my life i have always had cats as pets and i'm very grateful for that because cats are the best and i will forever have them as my pets. Cats are the greatest because they are independent which means it doesn't matter what your job is or how little you are at home, they can fend for themselves unlike dogs which need extra care and attention. If you don't have the time or can't put in the time to look after a dog then don't have one because they need someone they can rely on most of the time. As well as being independent cats also want loving but only on their terms so as long as you show them that they have the upper hand and you let them come to you then they will love you more for it and will always come to you for loving. 

People may prefer dogs because they might want a pet they can really connect with and who will rely on them and really appreciate them however just because cats don't necessarily rely on you doesn't mean they don't appreciate you they are just less willing to show their appreciation. Like my cat he likes company and being around people but he does it in an extremely subtle way such as being in the same room as you but sitting in the window sill or hiding somewhere so you can't tell he's there, he doesn't demand you to see his presence. Whereas dogs are very much in your face and constantly seeking attention by wanting you to play with them or getting up to mischief or simply barking. 

Whenever i dog sit for people whether it's just for a day or a few days you instantly connect with them and it gives you such a great feeling when dogs look up to you and do as they're told, you can get attached to dogs very quickly which is great if you've got the time and dedication to look after a dog full time. Because they rely on you so much it's like having a baby and the things they do for you like protecting you and comforting you when you're upset is so heart warming and worth the dedication and hard work, it's hard to resist not having a dog. But the fact that no one's at home at lunchtime everyday means that if we did have a dog we couldn't give it the love and attention it deserves that is why we have had always had cats. 

It's very true when people say cats choose their owners and dogs don't because half the cats we have had haven't even been ours in the first place. There is nothing more relaxing than the sound of a cat purring because when you hear that sound you know you've done good. 

What i want to know is are you a cat or dog person or do you love both? 

Sorry it's been so long since my last blog post, hope you enjoyed :)