No More Negativity

I've been through a tough few months deciding whether to get someone out of my life and not have anything to do with them because of the negativity they've been causing not just recently but the past few years. So i'm going to give you my advice if you are in the same or similar situation because it can be incredibly difficult especially if you're really close to them.

Everybody changes and we're all constantly changing all the time due to the people we associate with, the environment we're in, situations that are happening at the moment and things such as alcohol and drugs. So it's completely normal that the people we are friends with and family change and we adapt to that if it's good change or to do with the situation they're in however when people start changing for the worse and drop you for people who don't necessarily care about them is when you have to think, do they deserve my friendship, or are they worth my time and effort any more? If someone can't see they're being unacceptable or even rude to someone they're meant to be close to then it's a case of them not caring and totally being blind to what is going on. There could be a lot of different reasons as to why they are acting this way however none of those reasons are acceptable. 

If someone you are close to is changing like this then try and let them know early on whilst they are not completely oblivious as to what is happening and don't put up with it for too long because they won't learn after two or three chances. People can be so convincing when they say they'll change and you mean so much to them sadly though some people, some being the operative word don't change no matter what. 

Yes this person might mean the world to you and when you think about telling them you want nothing more to do with them all you can remember is the great times you had together. You might have even spent the best times you've ever had with this person but what you've got to remember is it will never be the same again. People change we grow have different hobbies and interests and can't look back in this way. Nothing good will ever come when you compare times, people or yourself, EVER. The only thing you'll get out of it is frustration and sadness. 

The thing i found when this person wasn't in my life any more is i didn't miss them as much as i thought i would. Yes it's hard when you're getting your head around it and they're still pestering you but after all of that it gets so much easier. I really don't think of this person at all any more even though we were extremely close at one point and i never look back at that friendship any more.I just think of all the negativity that isn't in my life any more. Life is a lot calmer, peaceful and relaxed now she isn't in it any more. That's how i want my life to be like. I don't want to be involved in ridiculous drama and get drunk all the time that isn't me. I don't like alcohol and getting totally wasted. That just isn't me and i shouldn't have to give an excuse to not drinking, if you don't want to drink don't drink. 

Even though we have only recently gone our separate ways our friendship had disintegrated a very long time ago. Like no matter how hard you tried things were just awkward and we never really spent any time when it was just the two of us. My main message here is it does get better and please don't look back at the friendship or even relationship when it was really good.