Eat What You Want

I'm getting sick and tired of people saying that every single type of food group is 'bad for you'. Yes things are going to be bad for you if you eat them all the time in large quantities such as chocolate, cheese, ice cream or fried eggs however this should not make you feel as if you can't eat them or guilty when over snacking once in a blue moon. As long as you're healthy and happy nothing else should matter never should you be self concious of what you are eating because oh no it's meant to be bad for you. Everyone loves chocolate, crisps, eggs, ice cream and cheese and have loved them for years, so why are people getting so obsessive over what people should and should not be eating now? It hasn't harmed anyone before so why the hell should it now?

One key factor to living a happy, healthy life is to eat what the hell you want because food is amazing. Being able to eat freely with a variety of different food groups is guarantee to lead a healthy life not cutting out foods completely that maybe deemed unhealthy or 'junk food'. Fair enough if you want to lose a few pounds that's fine but don't feel you have to rule your life around what you should and shouldn't eat because this can be a dangerous attitude towards food and cause disorders towards food.

Ask yourself this question would you rather be able to eat freely but maybe not be the size you desire to be or become obsessive towards what foods are seen as good and bad foods and completely bad the foods that are bad for you and not feel fulfilled?

By cutting foods out of your diet that are seen as bad for you you're actually losing a lot of essential fats and carbohydrates you been in your diet. What i'm trying to say is there isn't such a thing as 'bad foods' because everything is good for you in moderation and variety is key. By having a variety of different food types you are guarantee to get enough energy and nourishment. There is more to life than what you're eating and you shouldn't have to focus all your energy on what you're 'supposed' to be eating.

Perfect Doesn't Mean Happy

After some time of trying to be more self aware and find ways to keep improving different aspects of my life i have come to realise that generally the people who think highly of themselves and constantly look for things in others to criticise are not happy and fulfilled in their own lives. So next time you feel as if you're not good enough or want to be successful as someone else whether that's at work or at home you need to ask yourself are you happy in yourself? It doesn't matter what you do as a career or if you're single or in a successful relationship because as long as you're happy and content it really shouldn't matter. Some of the most successful people aren't happy, nowhere near happy. You need to appreciate yourself and realise what you're good at and emphasis those things because when you realise other people appreciate these factors which at least someone does you will be confident in yourself. If you lack confidence like i do you need to constantly reassure yourself you are good enough. No one needs to be perfect to be happy and why should we think that perfect means happy? Perfection doesn't exist and until we all realise this maybe then we will all have more chance of being happy and content in life and especially in ourselves. 

10 Things That Annoy Me

I have decided to do a light hearted post after a few serious ones so i hope you enjoy :) 

1. People who dish out a lot of banter constantly that could offend people yet they can't take a joke when the table is turned. These types of people really annoy me because if you can't take a joke yourself then you shouldn't be dishing them out, fair enough if you can take it and let it go over you. 
2. Parents not shutting your bedroom when you repeatedly tell them to shut it. If it's shut before they come in they should shut it after coming into your room. It takes too much effort to have to shut it again every time they come in.
3. When people ask me "why are you so quiet?" i know some of those people might just be curious however it gets annoying, you don't hear someone asking someone else "why are you so loud?". It's just who i am, not everyone feels the need to be heard all the time. 
4. Excessive public displays of affection. Yes i agree seeing couples holding hands or pecking each others cheeks is cute, it's great to see people happy together but if they are literally on top of each other or eating each others faces it is very sickening and awkward to see. There is something called a bedroom for those kind of displays of affection if you can call it that. 
5. Skinny girls saying that they're fat. Yes i get that everyone has their insecurities, still complaining that you're fat when you clearly are not is very insulting to people who do suffer with weight issues and  this could make them feel even more insecure than they already are. If you're saying it to get attention then you are 100% knobhead. Most people who do have weight issues would not complain about it in this manner because they probably don't want to talk about it.
6. When you go in a room and completely forgot why you went in there, why does your brain stop working when you need it to work. This also makes you look like an idiot just randomly going into a room and going out straight away. 
7. Guys that brag about having loads of sex with different girls. Women are not objects, we are actual people with actual feelings, believe it or not. So hearing a guy talk in this manner is extremely off putting and gross. More than likely these types of guys are ironically the guys who are not getting any so they feel the need to brag. Well it's not surprising the attitude they have towards women. 
8. Sexist, racism and homophobic pigs, lets just leave it there. 
9. When people judge you before they've even met you. Wow you must think a lot of that person to make assumptions before you've met them. 
10. When you tell your parents something you think they'll take as a joke and they take it completely seriously. You try and explain it's meant to be a joke but they don't listen and rant on to you as if you're 8 again still not realising it was supposed to taken as a joke. Never tell your parents anything like this because they will not take it as a joke. It's like they want a reason to have ago at you. 

Bullying Outside Of School

Throughout your life there will always be people who dislike you or try to put you down whether that's at school, work, home life or simply with a group of friends and one of them may dislike you for no real reason whatsoever. It doesn't matter who you are whether you spend your life trying to be nice to others or do good things for people, you will always find people who are going to be mean and nasty for no reason other than seeing you as an easy target. What some people don't understand is that bullying doesn't just happen at school it can happen all through life or at any period. I'm going to talk about different situations outside of school which bullying can happen which can be common.

Dealing with bullying at work can be hard because you may be unsure where to turn to for help. It's not like at school where you have specific people to turn to for help or just to let them know about it such as friends or teachers you might be really close to. Work environments can be very stressful in which you might feel less welcome to let someone know what is happening. You could have someone you are very close to at work who you could tell, this would really help and they will probably encourage you to tell someone even though you don't feel inclined to. Bullying in a workplace can also be difficult to deal with because although you can leave and find another job it isn't that easy. Jobs are hard to come by and this job maybe a job you have been working hard to get for a long time. If this is the case do not let someone who is trying to bring you down get the better of you and make you want to quit. The best advice I can give in this situation is avoid them at all costs and if you can't avoid them ignore the nastiness and smile through gritted teeth. I know it's easier said than done however just remember you are the bigger person and you are always going to find nasty people wherever you are which means don't assume the grass is greener on the other side. If you can stick up for yourself this should help immensely. It can be difficult at work but if you can without getting into trouble stick up for yourself plus do it in a calm way else they'll know they've got the better of you. Another strategy that could work well is being really nice to them, this could totally confuse them and even if they are getting to you it'll show that you don't really care. If none of this does work and they carry on I will urge you to tell someone until something serious is done to stop it, no one should have to deal with bullying whatever age they are. If they're working in the same section as you you could ask if you could work in a different section to them or tell your boss if they could put you and that person in different areas so your not working together, it could literally be as easy as that. Never give up a job you love that is the most important advice I can give. Plus remember that everyone has to work with someone they don't like and most of the time you just have to let it go over your head and not take any notice of them.

In my opinion the worst kind of bullying is bullying that happens at home where you're meant to feel safe and secure. When I was being bullied at school I always looked forward to going home because it was a place where I felt most comfortable and could get away from the bullying so I dread to think what it's like for people who get bullied at home. If someone's being bullied at home they could be getting bullied at school as well so they can never get away from it. Typical bullying that happens at home could be when Mum or Dad get a new partner after separating and they have step siblings that could be bullying them or even worse their Step Mum or Dad could be bullying them. Being bullied by adults can be very harmful to younger people because it could be manipulative, verbal abuse basically bullying that isn't easy to identify. Bullying a child or young adult in this way can be seriously harmful and really affect the way their brain develops they might think it's acceptable to act this way towards others or feel significantly insecure and self conscious. It's hard to give advice in a situation that is so serious. You must tell someone such as your Mum or Dad or even a teacher, someone that won't judge you and is likely to believe you. It's extremely upsetting to think that some people feel like total strangers or prisoners in their own homes. The best advice I can give is as soon as you can financially and when you feel ready move out, get away from that situation. The sooner you can move out the better or if you're not old enough maybe there's an Auntie or other relation you can move in with. Never give up trying to find other options and always do what's best for you.

Bullying at college or Uni can be harder to deal with than at school because there might not be a specific person to go to for help or just to talk to about it that's professional. People could bully you more on what you're wearing or the way you look because you get to wear your own clothes etc. If you don't have many friends bullies might see you as an easy target plus with less teachers around than at school bullies are more likely to get away with it unless you let someone know. Try and find people who have the same interests as you and you will make friends easily. I found that making friends at college was easier than at school because you have more flexibility plus it's easier to find people with the same interests as you. Being with friends makes it easier to deal with bullying and telling them what is happening will help a lot. Don't feel guilty if you feel like you're spending too much time on your work because that will help with your future where as messing about all the time won't. So always put your work first especially if you're like me and have to work harder than most to get a good grade. You might also feel as if you're being bullied in a group of 'friends' so when you do pick your group of friends at college, school, uni or outside of these areas remember it isn't right if someone is putting you down or that group of friends as a whole. I urge you to get out of that friendship group if this is happening to you because friends are meant to make you happy and lift your spirits not put you down or 'joke' about your insecurities. It is actually surprising how many friendship groups have that one person they pick on. Always have friends that make you happy and that you can trust because life is hard enough to deal with without having friends who make you feel like crap.

If you are being bullied I advice you to read my post called How to Deal With Bullying which goes into more detail on how to deal with it whereas this was more about what other types of situations that bullying can happen in.