It is utterly exhausting being an introvert in a world where everybody wants and feels the need to be heard, in this world most people thrive off attention and social situations where attention is given to them in crowds of people. Being an introvert this would literally be my worst nightmare some introverts may even suffer anxiety and panic attacks if they were in this situation. No matter what career you go into you are more than likely to be surrounded by extroverts who are eager to be the best and use there personalities to charm people and are able to grow and develop themselves by being around people with similar personalities and interests. Introverts come across as very private people who reserve themselves for people they are extremely close to and are not able to let their personalities shine through like extroverts, this does not make them any less worthy or not equal to extroverts. Introverts would find jobs just as a sales person, acting, singing. performing or a public speaker extremely difficult maybe even impossible because you have to express yourself with emotion and connecting with other people. Introverts find it mentally and physically exhausting being around people never mind very extroverted people who use their personality in their jobs. Introverts work better on there own and will find they get a greater amount work done and can concentrate more by being by themselves in a peaceful environment.
I need my own time to feel re energised to be able to face people whether that's at work, going shopping or meeting with friends. Introverts can come across as selfish because they might pick being by themselves instead of going out with friends who they haven't seen in months. It's so difficult for people to understand intros unless you are one because there are significantly more extroverts in this world and society sees being shy and quiet as weaknesses and as being vulnerable and needy however introverts themselves see themselves as independent, observers and private plus there are such things as shy extroverts and introverts who are confident. These are not weaknesses these are just different ways of living life so what if people prefer to do things on their own and very much step back from situations in which normally people have an instinct to step forward and say their opinion.
The question introverts dread being asked is 'what did you do this weekend, anything nice?' and you are just stuck there hesitating figuring out how 'staying at home by yourself watching chick flicks' could sound fun. Especially with going out with friends is what most people normally do on the weekends regardless of this i get excited and look forward to having nights on my own, this is what excitement is to intros. Just because we prefer to spend time on our own this does not meet we don't need friends and like to be on our own all the time. We pick quality over quantity and would rather have one or two friends that we connect with on a deeper and more intense level than extroverts who just love being surrounded by lots of people most of the time. So just because we are very reserves does not mean we are not worth knowing because friendships with introverts will be some of the most valuable friendships you can have. We are the types of people that friends look for advice from and know that we will be there no matter what even if we haven't met in months things will not have changed and that friendship will still be very strong because the people we do have in our life we think a lot of.
I don't think there will ever be a time where society as a whole will ever understand introverts and the way our brains function because there is much a minority of us. We are constantly being told that it is something we will grow out of and spending so much time on your own is not healthy or why don't you try and make small talk. But none of those things are true and never will be because there is evidence that our brains work differently.
There are many pros and cons for both introverts and extroverts but what about celebrating both and admiring the different ways we all function.
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