Peer Pressure

Peer pressure is someone that most people go through whether that's through friends, school, family or society. There are many forms of peer pressure so it's very likely that you are dealing with peer pressure whether that's to look a certain way or doing things you wouldn't normally do. If you are feeling pressure from friends i advice you to tell someone and remember that you don't have to do what they want to do and at the end of the day you will be more respected and happy with yourself if you stick to your guns than being a push over and doing what your 'friends' ask you to do. You need to make sure you make the right decision for you because if you make the wrong decision and give in you have to live with your actions for the rest of your life. Whether that is pressure to go to uni from family or go into a certain career path it's vital you make the decision for yourself and no one else no matter how happy it makes them. Your happiness should always come first. 

Peer pressure between friends and trying to fit into the 'popular' group at school is extremely common but if you need to change anything about who you are to fit into a group means they aren't meant to be your friends. They aren't worth your time or effort. Make sure you surround yourself with people that make you feel good and comfortable with who you are and always appreciate you and the relationship you have together because that's what you need at school when you will probably be very vulnerable. School is a time when you are still discovering who you are and maybe your sexuality and it's also a starter for romantic relationships and hormonal changes with dealing with all this and peer pressure can be too much for young people which can lead to mental disorders and anxiety. Not only will there be peer pressures from friends but also pressure to do well in school from teachers, government and also maybe parents. Someone as young as 14 shouldn't have to deal with all this pressure.

I am someone who is guilty for giving into peer pressure because i like making people happy and as a younger person i was so determined to seek approval. I regret this now because i should've known that the only approval i need is from me, getting their approval from school means nothing to be now so why did i feel so much pressure to be liked and approved? Now i know i don't need anyone else's approval i will make sure i don't make decisions i'm not comfortable with and always make sure i don't hurt others with my actions because of pressure. Your happiness is worth more than someone's approval even if they're a family member or friend. I shall always put me first when it comes to things like this but not in a selfish way. Yes it might seem selfish to others but you should always put you first. Nothing is worse than feeling guilty for your actions that just aren't you but you did it due to peer pressure because things like that will not get you the respect you want. 

Peer pressure doesn't just come from people but also society or media, as a female i constantly feel pressure to look a certain way and i shouldn't feel this way, no one should. No matter how many times i tell myself i look fine just as i am i see perfectly skinny girls with curves in all the right places in magazines or in clothing stores and it's not just something you can forget about. As a society we are all bombarded with how we should look, dress and weigh and not just girls but boys as well. Boys are told they should be muscular and masculine and girls are told they need to be skinny and must wear make up. We should not have to live up to the media's expectations and focus on the things that do matter such as education, poverty and simply being kind, decent beings. 

If you are struggling through pressure from any kind of situation i am always here to listen and show understanding. 

My Chosen Dresses For This Summer

I have never really been a girl for dresses however the last few months i've seen some really lovely dresses and wanted to start wearing them to make a change and feel more summery when the sun finally does come out. Nothing's better than being able to dress for the summer whether that's wearing skirts, shorts, sandals, flip flops, dresses or vest tops especially after having to wear several layers just to feel remotely warmed up. In this post i'm going to show you pictures of me in different dresses and tell you why I love them where i got them from and what you could wear them with. I am not good at finding things that match my outfit so please beware when i do make suggestions because you're ideas will most likely be better but i'll try anyway.

I love this dress because the texture is so soft and it's a different kind of fabric than i normally buy for dresses so it makes a nice change. The fabric is also quite stretchy which is good because if i get bloated the dress moves with me which is extremely comfortable especially for a dress you want to wear all day rather than for an event. I like the way the dress goes tight at the waist to emphasis my small waist and then flows out till the end. I'm not sure what jacket i could wear with this dress maybe a leather jacket or a small dark cardigan maybe grey or black. For shoes i would wear black/brown dolly shoes or a nice pair of heels if i was wearing it to go out. I think that most footwear would go well with this outfit. I got this dress from New Look at around £20 maybe less, bargain i would say. 

This dress is very lose and comfortable which is one of the main factors i go for when i buy a dress i don't want something i feel i can't move in freely or even breath in. I love the floral print with the black top it makes it look like i'm wearing a high waist skirt however this dress is a million times more comfortable. The skirt bit is very thin which will be very good for the hot weather and would be ideal to wear with leggings or tights if you wanted to. With this dress i would wear a denim jacket because it would bring even more colour to the dress and add to the summery look. This dress was from ASDA and i love it. I've already wore it to many days out and haven't had it that long. I would also wear a lovely pair of sandals with this dress.

This dress is more for a night out in the summer rather than wearing it in the day. The lacy bit at the top gives the dress a lovely sexy yet sophisticated look to the dress and makes it so much more than just a black dress. I love how it flows straight down but also shapes the body in a complementary way. This dress is surprisingly comfortable and the fabric is very decent and has an incredible feel to it, i got this dress from New Look at around £20. I have already wore this dress out and loved it. I would wear this dress with a nice pair of black heels or if you wanted to add some colour maybe black and white heels or even boots if you were weathering it in the winter. 

I love this dress because it's got a bright print throughout the whole dress and i need more dresses with pattern and brighter colours so this dress definitely matches that criteria. I would again wear this dress with a denim jacket or a brown jacket, something simple so it doesn't clash with the dress. I would also wear a casual pair of flip flops or sandals with it. As you can see this picture isn't recent and this is the oldest dress but i still love it as much because of the print and i simply haven't got a dress like it. The bottom doesn't really flow like my others do and is a much simpler design. I got this dress from Primark for only a fiver, what a bargain.