Porn - Good Or Bad?

With porn being incredibly easy to access for anyone at any age in just a variety of genres we have to question whether this is a good or bad thing. You don't have to be 18 to get hold of porn as it's so easy to fins on the interest without any restrictions. I don't believe the concept of porn is a bad thing because sex is a natural thing however i believe there are so many negative things within the porn industry and that is what i'm going to talk about in this blog post.

With such a high rating of teenager viewers on porn sites it is already evident that it's going to have a big influence on their future or already existing sex lives
 and how they view gender roles. This is why it's so important see how it affects people. With a lack of sex education in schools this could be the only 'sex education' and information they are going to get to do with sex. There are many aspects porn could affect in a negative way such as relationships, sex lives, the way teenagers view sex, how both genders view each other and so many other aspects.

With porn being a very unrealistic way in which sexual intercourse happens for example no communication beforehand to seek consent and talk about each others needs, sexual positions that are extremely uncomfortable and not realistic, no communication during sex only abuse that is glamourized and the female looking extremely uncomfortable and mute. This is extremely sexist, dominant, even abusive and could be seen as rape. Without any of the people taking part in sex in porn asking for consent or checking with their body language that they are comfortable with it this will bring a shocking amount of influence on how to approach sex to people so young.

Porn romanticises and glamorizes violence towards women e.g. gagging, whipping, strangling and hair pulling which only encourages guys who watch porn to rein act these actions on their other half assuming this is something they will enjoy. If you are a woman and into these types of things then fair enough however most of us are not so it's very insulting to assume we enjoy such horrible behaviour. It's extremely disrespectful and hurtful to the victim in this situation, sex should not involve violence in any way. If both people are not enjoying the experience then something isn't right because it shouldn't be that way.

Men will develop unrealistic expectations not just on how they think women should act in the bedroom but how they look physically. Women in porn are totally hairless showing no sign of body hair apart from eyebrows and hair, pubic hair is no where to be seen on women and men are often hairless on their chests and showing little body hair as well. This can make women especially with dark hair extremely insecure. It is impossible that a women naturally has no body hair as we are all human. Women in porn also show no sign of love handles, cellulite, roles of fat and are normally women with big breasts which are often implants and flat stomachs. Making men have higher expectations of women than is realistic.

Not only are their looks unrealistic but their behaviour as well, Men in porn are usually very dominating and controlling and sex is seen as something to satisfy men only by having the lady in positions that are uncomfortable and not stopping when the woman is evidentially in pain or shows no sign of pleasure or satisfaction. This is a seriously dangerous message to portray and emphasises and encourages the use of victim blaming within rape and glamorising it as porn,

I believe porn is not something we should aspire to within our own sex lives, no contact such as touching, kissing, foreplay or genuine chemistry is used within porn, you are simply just shown what sex is like after all the foreplay etc however foreplay is extremely important and some would even say the best part of sex so why should it be totally dismissed in our own sex lives. Having an emotional connection to your sexual partner makes it a lot easier and enjoyable plus you'll feel more comfortable saying no when you aren't ready or in the mood. Sex in itself isn't always the main pleasure but being with someone you know is worth it. Porn does not portray any connection at all and in my opinion makes it awkward and not enjoyable to watch.

I am not saying every single thing about porn is bad and you should never watch it however acts within sex and their attitude towards it in porn should not be demonstrated within your own sex life. Yes it could be great to spice up things in the bedroom but if your partner isn't keen then you should find something else that you both agree on. There isn't anything bad with watching porn as long as you know this is incredibly glamorized and staged that you shouldn't let it influence your own sex life at all.