When you start to love yourself for who you are with no one else but you that is when you will be ready to see someone else and know that the way they treat you is acceptable and what you want. By rushing into countless relationships that mean nothing more than just having someone to hang out with, this is when you see problems arising. Problems which include not being treated the way you should be and thinking things are acceptable when they simply aren't just because you don't want to be lonely.
I'm 20 and nearly 21 in a few months and I have never had a serious relationship this isn't for any particular reason other than I haven't found anyone and it really doesn't bother me. I think that friendships are just as important as boyfriends/girlfriends because they are people I care about and I would never give that up for one person. Just because I'm single doesn't mean I'm lonely because I have friends and family and this is why friendship is just as important. Having a significant other would be lovely but it really isn't necessary to be happy. Having your happiness depend on other people means that you will never be truly happy with yourself and it's very unhealthy because people let you down and they aren't going to be there forever. I really wouldn't be bothered if I was single for the next 5 years as long as I had friends and family around me because that should be all that matters.
Being single there will be days where you just want someone to have that emotional connection with that is unique and special. If you try and force or rush into a relationship this could make you unhappy because that person might not be the type of person you want to be in a long term relationship with. I really don't get the point in quick meaningless relationships however I am not one to judge with having minimal experience with relationships this is just my opinion.
If you are in high school or college and all your friends are getting into relationships but you don't particularly want a relationship but feel left out, don't give into the pressure of mediocre relationships and concentrate on things that do matter such as friends, family, education and most importantly yourself. Once you realise there is so much more to life this will immediately make you feel better.
Being an introvert I feel my happiest when I'm on my own so being in a relationship would mean I couldn't be as selfish with my time and that is not what I want at the moment. I want to just be able to spend time on my own doing things I love without a conscience in the back of my mind thinking 'ah he's going to get annoyed if I say I'm busy tonight' etc etc. I don't really care that most of my friends are all in relationships and I'm not. It does get annoying when people ask me if I have a boyfriend and look at me weird when I say no. It's as if everyone must have a significant other to be complete when that couldn't be further from the truth.
Let me know what you think and if you agree that being single shouldn't matter and whether you are single or not and what you like about it or dislike about it.
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